School Counselor Message
Tips for Parents
*As a parent and/or guardian, you are a valuable stakeholder in your student’s educational success. Your student’s education is as important to you as it is to Nuview’s Staff. Here are some valuable Tips to become more involved in your student’s academic, social, and emotional growth.
* Are you aware of your students feelings toward their learning environment? If not ask them. Talk to them about their likes and dislikes about school. Ask them about their day, but request more than a simple “yes, no or ok,” answer. Find out about what they learned during the day, who they talked to, what they talked about, what they ate, what they played for recess, and maybe even ask them to teach you something they learned that day J. It is important to be involved in your student’s everyday life. Give them a chance to express their anxieties, fears, success/achievements and efforts. Most importantly continue to support and encourage them through their achievements and bad days by expressing and showing praise.
* Don’t have limits to the support you show your student, expand it to their teacher as well. Meet and get to know their teacher. Have regular communication with their teacher. This will allow for opportunity to discuss any concerns and diffuse any issues as they occur. Communication will make you more aware of what is going on in the classroom, on campus, give the opportunity to ask questions and be involved. This will also make it easier by enhancing the level of comfort for your teacher to contact you with concerns about your child. Remember that communication is key for success between parent/guardian, student and teacher.
*Being involved will also demonstrate to your student that their education is not only valuable to them, but to you as well.
* Possibly, one of the best ways to encourage and assist in your student’s educational success is by demonstrating to your child that you expect achievement and growth. This does not mean that you demand all A’s on their report card, only 100% scores, for them to be the best student/athlete/artist, but rather expect for them to do their best. Remember that we promote Growth Mindset at our school. Expecting student’s best effort is a step forward in academic and social growth. Demand that your student always “give their best/ try their hardest” and praise them for their efforts and accomplishments.
Information on Bullying
What is Bullying?
Bullying is a serious growing epidemic especially on school campuses. In order to attempt to diffuse bullying we must first understand what it is. Bullying is often misinterpreted, which is what makes it somewhat difficult to define. Bullying is often termed as a student bothering, teasing or being mean to another. While that depiction may still be categorized as bullying parents must understand that bullying stereotypes and misinterpretations can be much more complex and varied.
*Bullying: is repeated aggressive behavior from one or more students of a written, verbal, or electronic expression, or a physical act or gesture or any combination thereof directed at a target that:
- Causes physical or emotional harm to the target or damage to the target’s property;
- Places the target in reasonable fear of harm to him/herself, or of damage to his/her property;
- Creates a hostile environment at school for the target;
- Infringes on the rights of the target at school; or
- Materially and substantially disrupts the education process r the orderly operation of a school.
- R: repeated (more than once)
- I: imbalance of power (physical, social, economic, racial, etc)
- P: purposeful, refers to the intent to harm, when on ehas been told or knows the action is hurtful or unwanted
*Taken from Nuview Union School District Anti-Bullying Policy
Help your student identify bullying by asking questions:
- When your child discusses an incident that they or you might consider bullying use these questions to assess.
- Does the student feel hurt (emotionally, physically, etc) by the other student’s behavior?
- Has this specific behavior/s happened to your student more than once and was it by the same aggressor?
- Can your student make the behavior stop on their own? i.e Have they asked the other student to stop?
- Have they made an adult aware of the behaviors that have been directed towards them? *It is especially important that your student notify an adult on campus (their Teacher, Administrator, Campus supervisor, Counselor, etc) especially one they might feel comfortable with.
*It is extremely important that your student know to communicate their concerns with School staff so that the “bullying” be addressed immediately. Many times during investigating school staff find that the student has not informed any School Staff on campus, which makes it difficult to diffuse any problems at its initial stages.
Tips to assist your student when being bullied:
It is extremely important to talk to you child let them know that:
- They are NOT alone and you are there to help them
- It is not their fault
- No one deserves to be bullied
- EVERYONE deserves to be treated with respect
- They have the right to feel safe no matter where they are
*A great way to assist your student with the necessary tools for them to continuously stand up to bullying is to promote self-confidence. Guiding your student towards higher self-esteem is extremely crucial for their social and emotional development.
What NOT to say:
Sometimes in as an adult we might not have all the answers, but it is important in situations that involve bullying that the adult give the correct advice or options.
Do NOT say:
- Just get along
- It’s part of life
- Hit them back or Fight them
- Wait and see what happens
- They’ll stop eventually
Resources on Bullying
Stop Bullying Now https://www.stopbullying.gov/kids/webisodes/index.html
Kids against bullying https://www.pacerkidsagainstbullying.org/
ACT Raising Safe Kids Program http://www.apa.org/act/
Bully Prevention for Parents http://www.eyesonbullying.org/
Stomp out Bullying http://stompoutbullying.org/
Bullying Report at Nuview http://sprigeo.com/